Frizzy curly hair help!!!?

my hair is curly and it goes down to my chest area.i usally straighten it bacause wen ever i try to jus do it natural i gets way to frizzy.but frizz isnt the only problem i also dont lyk dat it get really big and way too volumonus.i jus want nice seperated curls because mine bunch up together.i lyk the curly look and i wud love to jus wear my hair natural but i really need help on how i can get it to be more relaxed,not so big and frizy.by the way wen i style it curly i dont jus leave alone i put lots of gel and hairspray so i doest frizz and it works but my problem is it doesnt help with the fact they my hair still looks too big.i want curls kind of lyk dis (ashley tisdale in the center):

http://i224.photobucket.com/albums/dd188 see how they are relaxed and separated.

any idea any products of steps i need to do to get this look?

right now my hair is lyk(goodday):http://s144.photobucket.com/albums/r166/Frizzy curly hair help!!!?
So, you know how to make it not frizz, but you are wanting a different type of curl?



You can use the perm chemicals that people use to make it curly but use it to straighten your hair a little. Also/or, you can use the size rollers that will give you the pattern that Ashley has. But, just to try it out, go to the salon and have it rolled and set to that style.



Just like you can straighen your hair (even though it is curly), you will have to curl it to change the look.



I dont know if you have been to this site, but it is pretty cool

http://www.naturallycurly.com/Frizzy curly hair help!!!?
You would have to straighten it first, then curl sections individually with a curling iron.



Use about 1 inch sections of hair, and curl them in a spiral from the base closest to the handle of the curling iron, and spiral toward the tip. Experiment with different sizes of curling irons to get the look you want.
You should go to your beauty salon and ask them if they have any gel that u use to tame curls my friends hair is just like that and she has really not flattened but controlled her curls so i just wanted u 2 no something like that exists if u want to call around local stores 2 find it. I cant imagine it being to incredibly expensive. Hope that helps good luck!
Mine is like this , I tryed just leaving it dry naturally and not tied up and it sort of worked. I generally tie it up and leave it, but most of the time try and straighten it. But even then it curls as the day go's on.
Go to a hair salon and talk to a hair stylist about it. But make sure you go to a really good salon. Not a $10 hair salon.